Understand that you are not your past.
When someone uses your past against you and enjoys reminding you of your past mistakes, all trust is lost and you cannot tell anything personal to anyone because you feel they will throw it all back in your face.
What happened in the past is used to gain power and control over you by blaming and shaming you. Throwing Mud African Igbo Proverb teaches you cannot throw mud and stay clean.
He who will hold another down in the mud must stay in the mud to keep him down - African Igbo Proverb
Let go of the past and people who remind you of your past
Every day grants a chance to create ourselves afresh to shake off the past, open up to the present moment without being reminded of the past to create an extraordinary future. Accept your history and remember that it does not define you.
Acceptance is the first step to letting go and setting yourself free. Believe in yourself. Believe in your purpose. Understand. Take time to reflect on your own history as a third party looking in without judgment: simply observe. Understand that you are not your past.
Understand that situations and patterns in your life created your experiences they did not create you. Consciously and actively, work at letting go of your story; your judgments and ideals.
How to let go of a toxic person throwing mud at you.People need people, but sometimes the cost is a heavy one and in that case, let go. Do not stay in mud throwing toxic relationships out of fear of being alone.
Realize its ok to go your separate ways.
Allow yourself to be sad.
Do not wallow in hurt and bitterness.
Do not wait for an apology.
Focus on your healthy relationships.
Gather the help of non-mud trowing friends.
Have less and less contact with the toxic person.
Let yourself move on.