Throwing Mud African Proverb
Understand that you are not your past.
When someone uses your past against you and enjoys reminding you of your past mistakes, all trust is lost and you cannot tell anything personal to anyone because you feel they will throw it all back in your face.
What happened in the past is used to gain power and control over you by blaming and shaming you. Throwing Mud African Igbo Proverb teaches you cannot throw mud and stay clean.
He who will hold another down in the mud must stay in the mud to keep him down - African Igbo Proverb
Let go of the past and people who remind you of your past
How to let go of a toxic person throwing mud at you.People need people, but sometimes the cost is a heavy one and in that case, let go. Do not stay in mud throwing toxic relationships out of fear of being alone.
Realize its ok to go your separate ways.
Allow yourself to be sad.
Do not wallow in hurt and bitterness.
Do not wait for an apology.
Focus on your healthy relationships.
Gather the help of non-mud trowing friends.
Have less and less contact with the toxic person.
Let yourself move on.